Choosing Between Separation and Divorce

Separation and divorce by David Clarke for Unsplash

Perhaps you’re undecided… or just not ready. Perhaps you want to ease your way out the door to avoid the responsibility of making a final decision. Or perhaps you simply need time to think about what you have, what you want, and the power you have to connect the two. Whatever your reasons for trying…

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How Do You Know You’re in a Bad Marriage?

How to tell if you're in a bad marriage

So, you had a fight. All couples fight now and then. So, you can’t remember the last time you had sex. You have young kids and a full-time job, and you’re exhausted. So, you don’t talk about anything but work and the kids. What is there to say that hasn’t been said already? Is all…

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27 Cautionary Signs You’re in a Toxic Marriage

Toxic marraige

Just like the proverbial frog in the pot, it’s nearly impossible to tell when you’re in the midst of marriage conflict that’s gone from warm to boiling, or when that humorous bite that initially makes for playful conversation begins to break the skin instead. There are the occasional stings of a partner who’s had a…

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Suing the Other Woman

Suing the other woman

A recent lawsuit in North Carolina has called attention to the presence of “the other woman” as a cause of divorce. There are only six states left where a woman (or man) can file this kind of lawsuit—the other five being Mississippi, South Dakota, Hawaii, New Mexico and Utah. The legal suit, termed “alienation of…

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Women and Divorce in Transformational Times

What Women Are Doing to Divorce

Those sounds you hear are the shattering of a glass ceiling and the fetters of an old patriarchal paradigm breaking wide open as something gorgeous emerges.  That Something Is Us. The recent election of Kamala Harris as the first woman of color to serve as U.S. Vice President has ushered in a new frontier of…

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36 Things to Do If You Are Thinking About Divorce

Woman walking on beach thinking about divorce

If you are thinking about divorce, your thoughts can fluctuate, ranging from the mere, fleeting imaginings of what life might be like if you were single, to the repetitive, torturous thought process of “Should I or shouldn’t I divorce?” While one end of the spectrum is entirely normal for many people, the other end can…

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10 Mind-Blowingly Good Things About Life Post-Divorce

Woman with pink hat post-divorce

Divorce is nothing to look forward to. It’s certainly not a line item on your walk-down-the-aisle bucket list. So imagining your life post-divorce isn’t likely to be on your radar until you are in the throes of losing your marriage. It’s also not likely to leave you feeling hopeful about your future. But divorce, like…

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