How to Overcome the 6 Hardest Things About Life After Divorce
People talk a lot about what it’s like to get a divorce, but those conversations don’t often extend to what life after divorce is like. Because, unless you’ve been divorced, you don’t quite get what this next phase is really all about. During divorce, there’s a certain process: you have items to research, things to…
Read MoreHow to Know When It’s Time to Divorce
If day in and day out you find yourself unhappy with your marriage, it’s natural to have doubts. To ask yourself, “When is enough enough?” or wonder “When is it time to divorce?” Being unhappily married is extremely uncomfortable and even hazardous to your health. You might feel off balance because you’re not fully invested…
Read MoreSuing the Other Woman
A recent lawsuit in North Carolina has called attention to the presence of “the other woman” as a cause of divorce. There are only six states left where a woman (or man) can file this kind of lawsuit—the other five being Mississippi, South Dakota, Hawaii, New Mexico and Utah. The legal suit, termed “alienation of…
Read More5 Must Do’s When Your Child Refuses to Visit Their Father
One of the more complex issues in coparenting after divorce is balancing your needs with your child’s needs. This is especially challenging when your child refuses to visit a parent based on the agreements made with your coparent, such as visitation time. Some children do not want to spend time with their father* or other…
Read MoreWhat Does a Gray Divorce Mean for You?
On the subject of gray divorce, it seems that there’s an elephant in the room. The divorce rate is slowing for millennials and younger age groups largely because people are waiting longer to marry or not marrying at all. Fewer marriages mean fewer divorces, and the fact that both men and women now have jobs…
Read MoreThe 5 Sides to Divorce Guilt
The process of divorce is harrowing enough. It’s physically, emotionally, and financially draining. It’s life-altering for everyone involved. And it comes with a guaranteed grief cycle in its wake. So the idea of adding divorce guilt to the heap of undesirable feelings seems almost, well, unfair. Guilt is the usual accompaniment to having done something…
Read MoreWomen and Divorce in Transformational Times
Those sounds you hear are the shattering of a glass ceiling and the fetters of an old patriarchal paradigm breaking wide open as something gorgeous emerges. That Something Is Us. The recent election of Kamala Harris as the first woman of color to serve as U.S. Vice President has ushered in a new frontier of…
Read MoreLife After Divorce: Finding My Footing in Year One
I recently handed in my resignation letter for a job I’d had for only three months. It was a good company but the type of work, the hours, and the pay didn’t suit me. My closest friends expressed tentative support. I knew they were wondering: “Are you sure you know what you are doing? It’s…
Read MoreHow to Reconcile Unconditional Love and Divorce
All of us have the capacity for unconditional love. However, while this lofty concept is an ideal we can nurture in ourselves, it is not at all appropriate to hold ourselves to it as a gold standard if it is to the exclusion of our own well-being. For this reason, the value of unconditional love…
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