If men and women are from two separate planets, divorce makes you feel like you’ve landed on a third …. Saturn maybe? The noxious rings of spinning gases choke and confuse you at the same time there’s this unspoken expectation, that you’ve arrived somewhere, so you should know what you’re doing. You should have a plan. Any other time, any other place, you’d take the lead. You’d problem-solve. You’re smart. But not now. For never in your wildest dreams did you expect to land here. And prepared is the last thing you are.
What do you make of your life now?
You feel alone, flooded with emotions that keep shifting and specific questions … about how-to’s. Your brain is jumping ….
- How to know if you must divorce?
- How to feel confident in your newfound but precarious independence?
- How will you split? Build a new life? And end the old one?
- What kind of lawyer or mediator should you use? What must you know? Can you DIY it?
- How will you stay upright to survive? And present a strong front for the kids?
- What is the Art of Reinvention? How much do you leave behind and what do you take with you?
These questions, and so many more, are as loud in your head as their answers are elusive … out there … floating in the ether.
The confusion is normal. The sense of isolation is normal. Not being able to talk about what you’re going through is normal.
What’s NOT normal … is knowing how to help yourself.