Understand what healing looks like for you specifically, and why this Pause after divorce is precious
Moving on after divorce. Starting over.
There are requirements …
• Understanding what healing looks like: discovering what to shed and what to choose now
• The Pause. Appreciating it and getting comfortable with the discomfort as we embrace this moment and use it for clarity and direction
• Recognizing we are comprised of many parts and that these parts, having survived the divorce crisis, now need our full attention to heal and to adapt
• Taking stock that there is still work to do — a conscious un-blending of who we once believed we were and who we want to be, who we truly are. The process is hard-earned, and also our most precious opportunity
This is the work of Paloma’s Group, not your typical divorce recovery group for women.
“This group is a power-base for women to heal, to navigate rebuilding a life, to help their children cope, and to learn forgiveness. This is hard, but in Paloma’s Group, we do it by helping each other.”
~ Susan L., Los Angeles, CA
“I came here feeling like I failed. I don’t feel like that anymore.”
~ Neelisha, Belleville, NJ
“Surrounded by Palomas, I can honor a new sense of possibility in my life. I’m taking care of practical issues, but also getting on with the more interesting — discovering me, the woman I really am.”
~ M.Z., New York, NY
Paloma’s Group is founded on the Art of Reinvention.
The ability to decide, design, and direct one’s energy toward the creation of your best, most aware, most self-directed life. What this means is that …
For those women who initiated their divorce, Paloma’s Group is a safe place to explore independence while putting into place best practices for stability and growth.
For those women recovering from an unwanted divorce, understanding their grief and the long list of loss and losses is a process that must come first. To Paloma’s Group, these women bring a willingness to explore who they are, what role they played before, and who they want to be now.
For many, Paloma’s Group is THE structure they use to holistically rebuild their life after divorce.
For all, Paloma’s Group is the university that cultivates the skills, the know how, the confidence to move through the “practical” requirements necessary for crafting and embodying an independent life. A life on — and of — one’s own.
“I can’t say enough about the power of being with like-minded women. I’ve got plenty of friends with opinions on what I should be doing — “Move on,”they say.”Get over him,” but they know nothing — as much as they mean well. With my Sisters in Paloma, there seems to be this built in understanding that we’re taking each other’s hand and stepping into this brave unknown together. I’m no longer alone.”
~ Jenny K., Madrid, Spain
“ … Although each of our stories is different, we have the same goal of redefining ourselves. It’s so inspiring to hear each other’s dreams and to be supported with feedback on our own. And the most amazing thing is the bond that’s developed between us.”
~ K.M., New York, New York
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Time: 12-1:30pm Eastern Standard Time
Dates: Paloma’s Group is currently in-session. Check back for dates on our next cohort forming in the fall of 2021.
Location: Your safe/private space (if you miss a class, catch the recording later)
Designed for: Single, independent women, post-divorce
One of the most powerful ways women cope with crisis is by connecting with other women.
So, it makes sense that when we ask women what they want most when rebuilding their lives after divorce, they tell us, “It’s to find other women.” They are searching for community. They want a place where there’s instant connection, because of the story they’ve each lived through.
This is the foundation of Paloma’s Group.
Through seven, live, interactive classes with visuals and sharing, followed by Socials and small group discussions, we will meet virtually 3x a month for seven months until January 2022. In between classes, you’ll take personal steps suggested in the home prep and benefit from regular Sister Partner conversations using scripts as a launching pad for deeper discussion, support and accountability. As well, you’ll take advantage of your private consultations and enjoy a monthly “Paloma Social” with the other ladies in your cohort.
Paloma’s GroupTm is created and facilitated by SAS for Women Cofounder, Liza Caldwell, an educator and professional divorce coach.
Both the divorce recovery group for women, Paloma’s GroupTM and the divorce group for women, Annie’s Group® are based on Caldwell’s personal experiences, her professional work with divorce clients since 2012, and the four common functions of successful social support models. These include emotional, informational, instrumental, and affiliational pieces (Cobb, 1976; Salzer, 2002):
- Emotional: our groups explore feelings and support the understanding of their messaging. Women also benefit from the caring and empathy shared in their live interactions with group members.
- Informational: the sharing of black & white information, facts and knowledge are critical to advancing participants planning and movement in pursuit of goals.
- Instrumental: the action steps discovered through coaching exercises and homework requests provide real life application or training.
- Affiliational: our divorce & divorce recovery groups for women provide contact with experts to further specialized problem-solving with particular challenges. And within our groups, a community is cultivated with a shared sense of belonging and mutual support.
“My friends and family are tired of hearing my story. And my church has no clue what to do with me. There’s a stigma attached to divorce still. Paloma’s Group is the caring, supportive environment I’ve been searching for. It’s women who get it!”
~ Melanie D., Charlotte, North Carolina
~ K.E., Grand Rapids, Michigan
“Are you kidding me? I’d absolutely recommend compassionate, safe, nonjudgemental Paloma’s Group to any woman who is dealing with what comes next after divorce. You need your tribe.”
~ D.S., Key West, Florida
We understand the need for privacy. Paloma’s Group is a safe and secure place to be completely honest and to say exactly what you’re feeling. Immersed in an atmosphere of sisterhood and mutual respect, we will hold a confidentiality agreement. You are also welcome to participate using your first name only or a pseudonym.
You will absolutely learn more about yourself, feel better, sleep better . . . and importantly, experience a shift in your way of thinking about what is possible for your life, or write to Liza and SAS will refund your money for remaining classes.
Due to the subject and the vulnerability of participants, we must protect the divorce support space and keep it limited.
“I was so glad to know that I wouldn’t need food stamps any time soon and that, I’m in better financial shape than I thought!”
~ Lisa Stallings, Houston, Texas
“… The class flow was excellent — we had “lessons” on self development, finances, dating, parenting, and our emotional journeys. Later we spoke privately with experts, specifically about our circumstances, bringing the lessons “home” to our personal lives. And even though I am not ready to start dating — what I learned piqued my interest. I might actually try it down the road after I spend more time on me.”
~ K.M., New York, New York
“I came here terrified that I would hurt the kids beyond repair with the divorce and now I’m not panicked about that anymore. I also know with certainty that I have no regrets, my divorce was the right thing to do.”
~ M.T., New York, New York
“This deep work is contagious. Like working on myself has made me a better judge of character and in turn a better listener and friend to others.”
~ Hannah P., Bismarck, North Dakota
“I used to be looking back, constantly. My Sister Palomas have shifted my attention to now and to my future. And for that I am eternally grateful.”
~ L.C. San Antonio, Texas
Schedule your chat to learn if Paloma is right for you. And you? Right for Paloma.