Contemplating Divorce

Should I divorce? Should I stay for the kids? How will I survive?

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What is Gray Divorce? 9 Signs It’s Yours

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Sally is going through a gray divorce, she tells me, with tears running down her cheeks. We’re sitting in our neighborhood diner, watching the leaves falling outside, and people bustling past. I hadn’t expected this when she suggested we meet urgently for coffee. I thought she wanted to tell me about their wonderful weekend away…

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How to Avoid Gray Divorce Regrets

How to Avoid Gray Divorce Regrets

When I finally left my marriage, my mom didn’t hug me or say I’d made the right choice.  She just looked at me and said, “You wasted the best years of your life on him.”  It stung, but if I’m honest, she wasn’t wrong. I don’t regret leaving.  What I regret is how long I…

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Your Divorce-Proof Post-Nup

Your Divorce-Proof Post-Nup

While prenuptial agreements often receive the spotlight, postnuptial agreements have quietly emerged as powerful tools. Signed during the marriage, and not before, as with the case of a prenuptial agreement, postnuptial agreements are marital contracts that seek to protect the financial future or stabilize a marriage in transition. Rather than anticipating failure, post-nup agreements aim…

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Why Do Women Initiate Divorce More Than Men: 7 Reasons

Woman reflecting on why women initiate divorce more often than men

Marriage is often pictured as the finish line in many stories — that long-imagined day when the narrative is supposed to be complete and “ever after.” But the truth is more complicated, isn’t it? Studies show that women initiate divorce nearly 70% of the time, compared to men.• And when you talk to women about…

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What Exactly is a Cohabitation Definition?

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People have called it plenty of things over the years. Playing house. Shacking up. Living in sin. Some of those names were playful. Others came with judgment. But these days, for a lot of couples, it’s just life. We hear it all the time from women we work with. Marriage feels unnecessary for some. For…

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Should I Get a Divorce? A Self-Help Exercise

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How long have you been considering the question, “Should I get a divorce?” It could be a recent question. You might be shocked at yourself for daring to conjure it. Or it could be a question that keeps recurring — again and again inside your head (or, with your spouse). If it’s the latter, the…

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Is My Marriage Irretrievably Broken?

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I didn’t wake up one day and know the end was near. It wasn’t like that at all. It was days and weeks and months of little pieces of sadness that stretched into longer periods—these became years, until eventually I faced the facts. My marriage was irretrievably broken. I was unable to fix it. The…

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Are Divorce Support Groups Helpful?

Are divorce support groups helpful?

For many of us, divorce is shattering. Even if we are the ones who initiated it, or are now trying to rebuild our lives after the explosion. We all experience it—varying degrees of loss and shock, living through a life that is coming undone. If you never wanted the divorce, you never saw it coming;…

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