The 5 Sides to Divorce Guilt
The process of divorce is harrowing enough. It’s physically, emotionally, and financially draining. It’s life-altering for everyone involved. And it comes with a guaranteed grief cycle in its wake. So the idea of adding divorce guilt to the heap of undesirable feelings seems almost, well, unfair. Guilt is the usual accompaniment to having done something…
Read MoreWomen and Divorce in Transformational Times
Those sounds you hear are the shattering of a glass ceiling and the fetters of an old patriarchal paradigm breaking wide open as something gorgeous emerges. That Something Is Us. The recent election of Kamala Harris as the first woman of color to serve as U.S. Vice President has ushered in a new frontier of…
Read MoreLife After Divorce: Finding My Footing in Year One
I recently handed in my resignation letter for a job I’d had for only three months. It was a good company but the type of work, the hours, and the pay didn’t suit me. My closest friends expressed tentative support. I knew they were wondering: “Are you sure you know what you are doing? It’s…
Read MoreHow to Reconcile Unconditional Love and Divorce
All of us have the capacity for unconditional love. However, while this lofty concept is an ideal we can nurture in ourselves, it is not at all appropriate to hold ourselves to it as a gold standard if it is to the exclusion of our own well-being. For this reason, the value of unconditional love…
Read More3 Major Relationship Mistakes Women Make After Divorce
When it comes to dating in your new, independent life, you’ll want to steer clear of these relationship mistakes divorced women make time and time again. If you have divorced or gone through the breakup of a long-term relationship, then you know your fears about moving forward. You worry you’ll attract the same kind of…
Read MoreWhat is a Custody Battle and How Do You Avoid One?
A custody battle occurs when divorcing or divorced parents disagree about who should retain legal or physical custody of their children. Unfortunately, this is a common cause of litigation in family court, second only to litigation over support payments. Custody battles are costly, both emotionally and financially, and can wreak havoc in the lives of…
Read MoreHow Long Does it Take to Get a Divorce?
Divorce is a process, not simply a stamp of finality. How long does it take to get a divorce? Well, that depends… on factors both within and outside your control. You may want a divorce yesterday, but even the speediest dissolutions are at the mercy of your state’s divorce laws. And, even if the court…
Read MoreHealing a Broken Heart and Moving On
In a poignant twist of synchronicity, I was tasked last week to write a piece on healing a broken heart – not realizing at the time that it would echo a much larger collective voice – that of American leaders describing the heart of a nation that broke — hopefully open — on January 6.
Read MoreHow to Divorce Your Husband and Get Everything
Emotions are tough to excise from a divorce. After all, being unhappy is how you got here in the first place. So, it’s not inconceivable that you would seek to learn how to divorce your husband and get everything. Feelings, however, don’t write divorce laws or sway judges. And fuming into your divorce proceedings with…
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