Grief After Divorce: How to Recognize and Move Past It
After Divorce or Post Divorce are words society uses to capture that phase coming after you’ve signed the divorce document. You know, when so many people say, you should be “moving on”? We call this phase Stage 3 (of 4) of Divorce, for indeed it represents all that comes after the contemplation and court proceedings;…
Read MoreHappiness After Divorce: Your Sexual Reawakening
During the last ten years of my marriage, I had zero interest in sex. Actually, it may have even been a negative amount of interest. Ten years is a long time. I chalked my disinterest up to two kids and getting older (I was in my late 30s, so I was clearly trying to rationalize…
Read MoreConscious Uncoupling: Is It Really Still a Thing?
Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin brought conscious uncoupling to our collective attention when they announced their split in 2014. But very little has been said about it since. If you’re wondering if conscious uncoupling is still a thing or if it was just a flash in the pan, celebrity fad, you’re not alone. Conscious uncoupling…
Read More5 Simple Tips for Women Starting Over After Divorce
Marriage should be a mutually beneficial arrangement for two people. Love, of course, matters, but historically, women had finances and their future stability to consider when choosing a husband. And over the past hundred years, our concept of marriage has changed—not just in America, but in many parts of the world. Today, women no longer…
Read MoreWho Moves Out of the Marital Home During Divorce, and When Do They Leave?
A question that comes up over and over again in my line of work as a divorce attorney is “When can I move out?” Or put differently, “When can I get my husband to leave?” Maybe the tension is so thick you can cut it with a knife. Maybe your children are experiencing screaming matches…
Read MoreWhat My Grown Up Self Would Tell My Divorced Mom
Parents always wonder about the children when they get divorced. Will they be okay? Will they understand? What will they remember? My parents divorced when I was eight years old. My father told me he would have stayed, if my mother would have tried. My mother told me all she ever did was try. And…
Read MoreFive Steps for Choosing the Right Divorce Mediator for You
Choosing the right mediator is one of the most important decisions you’ll make during the divorce process. The right divorce mediator can save you money, shorten the painful divorce process, and empower you for life after divorce—all crucial factors in your healing process. But knowing how to find the right mediator for your specific needs…
Read MoreHow to Move On and Discover Your True Self After Divorce
It’s tempting, and oh, so easy to believe that the hard work of divorce is completing the legal, financial, and practical steps you must take to officially dissolve your marriage. The black and white stuff. And Lord knows there’s a myriad of those logistical, challenges. You have to decide how you will divorce, how, or…
Read MoreDivorce and Children: The Not So Secret Way to Get Through Divorce Without Breaking up the Family
Divorce is complicated. Divorce and children? That’s when uncomplicating things really matters. A “normal” family dynamic looks different to all of us. But those relationships and routines—the warmth, safety, energy, and feeling of support a family provides—is something none of us wants to lose. The benefits of a close-knit family seem obvious when you look…
Read More