9 Kick-Ass Things To Do If Your Husband Leaves You

What to do if your husband leaves you

Adulting isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, especially when painful adult experiences throw you back into an emotional childhood. If your husband leaves you, for example, you may feel the somatic eruption of memories from long ago. Abandonment. Disapproval. Rejection. Being unwanted… and the last to be chosen (if chosen at all). It’s remarkable,…

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Does Having an Affair Mean You Will Divorce?

To illustrate if having an affair means divorce

Having an affair—or being on the forsaken side of one—changes you. It changes your marriage, your family, your life. It makes you question everything—your marriage vows, your happiness, your ability to trust, even your own trustworthiness. And it certainly makes you question your future. Even if you regret your choice to have an affair, you…

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How to Manage Pain During Divorce

Manage divorce pain

When we’re in the midst of the visceral and all-encompassing agony of divorce, it’s difficult to cope with each breath, let alone remember that the pain eventually ends. The last thing we think about, but should address, is how to manage pain during divorce. The emotions are so strong and wide-spread that they often manifest…

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What to Do If You Are Dealing with an Unwanted Divorce

A woman looking out at a window thinking about her unwanted divorce

Your husband took you by surprise—but not the good kind. You never saw the end of your marriage coming. For many of us, that’s how it happens. One night you’re looking at Airbnb’s for a trip to Mexico with “Suzy and Ed,” your long-time married friends, your parallel soulmates whom you always travel with now…

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Divorce: How to Get Over a Breakup When You Feel Abandoned

How to recover from a divorce break up if you feel abandoned.

Often when you are reading about divorce and the woman’s perspective, many stories assume that the woman was unhappy and that she was the one who left the marriage. The research supports this, that women initiate divorce more often than men. And at SAS, we certainly work with women who feel and act on this.…

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How to Recover from Divorce Emotionally

Woman talking about her divorce recovery

You’ve heard it before, divorce can be as stressful as losing someone to death. Except death is final. The person is gone. So for those who never wanted the divorce, who continue to struggle, trying to recover from divorce emotionally, that lack of closure — still knowing your ex is around — can be more…

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Divorce, Grief and 3 Harmful Myths

divorce grief

Time heals all wounds. Umm, that’s nonsense. So is “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all,”“There are lots of fish in the sea,” and all the other inane things people say to you when you are suffering through a divorce, looking for solace and grieving. People mean well,…

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7 Ways to Pay for a Divorce

6 Ways to Pay for a Divorce

Would you like to speak to a lawyer but feel you can’t because you don’t know how you’d pay for a divorce? Does your husband tell you the money in your joint account is “his, because he earned it?” Do you wonder how you can afford to get a divorce if you aren’t working, because…

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