36 Things to Do If You Are Thinking About Divorce
If you are thinking about divorce, your thoughts can fluctuate, ranging from the mere, fleeting imaginings of what life might be like if you were single, to the repetitive, torturous thought process of “Should I or shouldn’t I divorce?” While one end of the spectrum is entirely normal for many people, the other end can…
Read MoreTelling Your Husband You Want a Divorce When He Doesn’t
Few moments in life feel as heavy as telling your husband you want a divorce, especially if he doesn’t agree. The thought alone can stir anxiety, fear, or even nausea. For many women, this talk means the beginning of a life-changing transition, one that demands courage and compassion in equal measure. Let’s face it, divorce…
Read MoreWhat is Gray Divorce? 9 Signs It’s Yours
Sally is going through a gray divorce, she tells me, with tears running down her cheeks. We’re sitting in our neighborhood diner, watching the leaves falling outside, and people bustling past. I hadn’t expected this when she suggested we meet urgently for coffee. I thought she wanted to tell me about their wonderful weekend away…
Read MoreHow Much Does a Divorce Cost if Both Parties Agree?
When you are first considering divorce, it is common to turn to Google to answer your questions. One of the initial questions you might ask is “How much does a divorce cost?” If your goal is to divorce in a civilized fashion (as opposed to being brutal with each other), and you also believe that it…
Read MoreHow to Avoid Gray Divorce Regrets
When I finally left my marriage, my mom didn’t hug me or say I’d made the right choice. She just looked at me and said, “You wasted the best years of your life on him.” It stung, but if I’m honest, she wasn’t wrong. I don’t regret leaving. What I regret is how long I…
Read MoreYour Divorce-Proof Post-Nup
While prenuptial agreements often receive the spotlight, postnuptial agreements have quietly emerged as powerful tools. Signed during the marriage, and not before, as with the case of a prenuptial agreement, postnuptial agreements are marital contracts that seek to protect the financial future or stabilize a marriage in transition. Rather than anticipating failure, post-nup agreements aim…
Read MoreWhy Do Women Initiate Divorce More Than Men: 7 Reasons
Marriage is often pictured as the finish line in many stories — that long-imagined day when the narrative is supposed to be complete and “ever after.” But the truth is more complicated, isn’t it? Studies show that women initiate divorce nearly 70% of the time, compared to men.• And when you talk to women about…
Read MoreDivorced Parents and the Unconscious Damage They Cause
It might be comforting to read of celebrities striving for an amicable divorce, a family shift where there are zero divorce effects on the children, and where, after signing the agreement, the divorced parents stay long-lasting friends. We want to believe this is possible today in our modern world. The unfortunate reality, however, is that…
Read MoreWhat Exactly is a Cohabitation Definition?
People have called it plenty of things over the years. Playing house. Shacking up. Living in sin. Some of those names were playful. Others came with judgment. But these days, for a lot of couples, it’s just life. We hear it all the time from women we work with. Marriage feels unnecessary for some. For…
Read MoreShould I Get a Divorce? A Self-Help Exercise
How long have you been considering the question, “Should I get a divorce?” It could be a recent question. You might be shocked at yourself for daring to conjure it. Or it could be a question that keeps recurring — again and again inside your head (or, with your spouse). If it’s the latter, the…
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