36 Things to Do If You Are Thinking About Divorce
If you are thinking about divorce, your thoughts can fluctuate, ranging from the mere, fleeting imaginings of what life might be like if you were single, to the repetitive, torturous thought process of “Should I or shouldn’t I divorce?” While one end of the spectrum is entirely normal for many people, the other end can…
Read MoreDivorced Women Share 14 Secrets to Surviving the Holidays
The holidays can feel anything but “holy” or “holly-filled” this time of year if you are reverberating from divorce. If you are thinking about divorce, for example, you could be feeling schizophrenic right now, or like a fraud, trying to honor the hallowed rituals at the same time you are feeling fragmented and splintered about…
Read MoreWhat is the Hardest Stage of Divorce?
So many of us never go through with the divorce, even though it’s what we really want. It can be one thing or a convergence of things that hold us back: we don’t have the courage, we prefer to live in denial, we focus on others, prioritizing their needs first, we’re not willing to make…
Read MoreWill the Kids Be All Right? Long-Term Effects of Divorce on Children
If you are a mother and facing divorce, chances are you worry a good deal about your kids and how — or IF — they will survive the crisis. You might observe how they are showing up now, what their behavior is currently like, from school reports, or inside the nucleus of your home. But…
Read MoreHow Can I Afford to Live Alone After Divorce?
After more than 20 years working with women going through the often painful process of divorce, I can tell you a question I have gotten time and time again is how can I afford to live alone after my divorce? Before getting into the weeds, I will give you the simple answer: It’s yes, you…
Read MoreWhat is a Menodivorce?
I remember the moment a friend of mine first mentioned the term “Menodivorce.” My initial thought was, “Wow! Now that’s an interesting confluence of words.” I couldn’t help but ponder the depth of what the term might really mean. It made perfect sense to me, in a weird kind of way. You’re not just losing…
Read MoreHow to Manage Your Emotional Divorce Spending During and After Divorce
As a divorced woman, I certainly don’t have any regrets in the decision to end my marriage, but perhaps just maybe one or two regarding the way I spent my money. If we’re not careful, mistakes during and after a divorce can affect our lives for years to come. Common financial mistakes people make at…
Read MoreHow to Face Feeling Alone After Divorce
Most of us, as we embark on our new life after divorce, face feelings of sadness and loneliness that make us not only sore but confused and occasionally, resentful. Humans are social, community-based creatures. Feeling lonely is one of the most difficult emotions for us to cope with. We might feel shortchanged, betrayed even, because…
Read MoreTelling Your Husband You Want a Divorce When He Doesn’t
Few moments in life feel as heavy as telling your husband you want a divorce, especially if he doesn’t agree. The thought alone can stir anxiety, fear, or even nausea. For many women, this talk means the beginning of a life-changing transition, one that demands courage and compassion in equal measure. Let’s face it, divorce…
Read MoreWhat are the Different Stages of Divorce?
Whatever life-changing experience you’re going through, the loss of a job, or a loved one, a personal health crisis, or a divorce, the challenge usually involves particular stages. These specific stages are often explored in books, articles, movies, and, of course, personal counseling sessions all over the world. When you realize this, that there are…
Read MoreWhy are Women Having a Divorce Party? And Should You?
How you respond to getting through your divorce is unique to you, much like your divorce story. Some women find joy and relief in marking the moment with friends, while others need quiet time to recover. Often, it can depend on how the marriage ended. The person who chose to leave is usually the one…
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