36 Things to Do If You Are Thinking About Divorce
If you are thinking about divorce, your thoughts can fluctuate, ranging from the mere, fleeting imaginings of what life might be like if you were single, to the repetitive, torturous thought process of “Should I or shouldn’t I divorce?” While one end of the spectrum is entirely normal for many people, the other end can…
Read MoreWhat is Alimony and How Long Does it Last?
For many women facing divorce, their top fears revolve around their children (if they have them) and how the situation might affect them. And, of course, the money and finances. Drilling down more, women often ask us about the differences between alimony, spousal support, and spousal maintenance. These are interchangeable terms depending on the state…
Read MoreThe Best Books on Divorce for Women
I hadn’t read books on divorce when I divorced my Ex. I’m sorry I didn’t read any – books showing how to solve problems related to dissolving your marriage and looking after your kids’ best interests. Perhaps I’d have coped better if I had, or maybe I would have looked at my circumstances differently. I…
Read MoreI am So Depressed and Lonely in My Marriage
I’ve always believed marriage was supposed to be a partnership, but it was hard to feel that I was part of a couple when things weren’t working in my own. What I expected to happen – supporting each other in a partnership, being together, being mutually respected – wasn’t my reality. I was often depressed…
Read MoreI Want a Divorce: 5 Steps to Help You Say It
If you think divorce is the only answer, but are too frightened to make the first move, it’s a good idea to consider why you’re so scared. Are you worried about your reputation, and how people will see you once you’re unattached? Is the fear because you don’t know how to tell your kids, family,…
Read MoreTrial Separation Checklist: 8 Things to Consider
When you start having problems with your marriage it can be so confusing that your mind and heart spin, often in conflict. And when those problems continue over months or years, with no real progress or resolution, it’s natural that a part of you might jump to the idea of divorce. That’s one way out…
Read MoreSole Custody v Full Custody: What’s the Difference
As a parent, you want to be involved in your child’s life. Divorce oftentimes makes this difficult. When you decide to go through with a divorce and you have a child below the age of 18, custody matters come into play, which can oftentimes be very challenging. Do you get sole, partial custody, or supervised…
Read MoreFinding Love After Divorce: How Vulnerability Can Lead to Happiness
Five years after my divorce and nearing my 50th birthday, I am happy to report being somewhere I never thought I would be. Finding love after divorce seemed impossible, yet here I am—happy in a loving, committed relationship, having just celebrated Christmas with my boyfriend’s family. Finding love after divorce is possible, and I can…
Read MoreWhat is a Divorce Doula?
One would think that giving birth is one thing, and getting divorced is another subject entirely. However, the name “doula” has recently been associated with these life changes. The name ‘doula’ has long been used to describe a midwife who assists a woman in giving birth. Now, the term describes coaches who help women transition…
Read MoreCultural Tradition and the Divorcing Woman: 5 Must-Knows
Divorce can be an isolating experience, especially when cultural tradition and the divorcing woman are at odds. When I informed my family of my divorce back in India, I remember feeling ashamed, before anything else. There were no comforting gazes, sympathetic pats on my back, or consoling words—only questions. “Why?” It was on the tip…
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