Why Is My Ex Remarried Already?

The answers to your question why my ex remarried

If you’re a recently divorced woman, then here are the things you’re likely focusing on: self-improvement, just getting through this painful chapter so you can move forward, reconnecting with old friends and finding new ones, and well, dating, eventually. Unanswered questions and half-formed plans may be swirling throughout your mind, but something you weren’t expecting…

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Why Divorce Hurts

Woman's hand on a window thinking about why divorce hurts

I think if you ask a woman why divorce hurts so much, she’d probably ask you in return, “Um, how much time do you have?” But there’s also the chance that she might recoil from you—unless you’re her close friend or a family member and you have a large tub of ice cream nearby—because of…

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What to Do If You Are Dealing with an Unwanted Divorce

A woman looking out at a window thinking about her unwanted divorce

Your husband took you by surprise—but not the good kind. You never saw the end of your marriage coming. For many of us, that’s how it happens. One night you’re looking at Airbnb’s for a trip to Mexico with “Suzy and Ed,” your long-time married friends, your parallel soulmates whom you always travel with now…

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6 Crazy Facts That Increase Your Risk of Divorce

Divorce and women one woman's journey

We romanticize our relationships, ignoring all the divorce facts and advice out there in favor of writing our own story. That story is the one you pull out when a friend, family member, or coworker asks you that dreaded question: what happened? It’s a question that’s almost impossible to answer because relationships are not linear,…

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Why Women Leave Men

Man thinking about why women leave men

If we’re trying to understand why women leave men they love—often digging up their roots after years of emotional cultivation—maybe we should first ask what we’re seeking from a long-term, committed relationship to begin with. Both women and men seek marriage and other forms of partnership. The search isn’t exclusive to those of us with…

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Seven Ways to Keep Your Sanity as You Get Through a Divorce

Getting through divorce

Getting through a divorce with our sanity intact is a real challenge. We have to grapple as much with what’s going on in our minds—with our beliefs about ourselves—as we do with what’s coming at us from the outside. It’s no wonder that divorce is typically ranked as one of the top three most stressful…

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Playing Nice with Your Ex’s New Girlfriend

Being nice when the Ex has a new girlfriend

When I was little, I used to take the goldfish bowl on our coffee table and wind that sucker down the length of the hall like a bowler on a bender. Off it would fly, water everywhere, mother rabid with exasperation, me laughing (and then crying from the butt swat), and the poor goldfish gasping…

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Divorce Help for Thoughtful Women

Divorce help for women

There’s no one way to be married, and the same is true for divorce. Smart women find the best way through it is by viewing the divorce process as a whole, and then narrowing in and breaking down each piece into manageable sizes that can be more easily accomplished. Take things slowly, and make sure…

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