How to Move On and Discover Your True Self After Divorce
It’s tempting, and oh, so easy to believe that the hard work of divorce is completing the legal, financial, and practical steps you must take to officially dissolve your marriage. The black and white stuff. And Lord knows there’s a myriad of those logistical, challenges. You have to decide how you will divorce, how, or…
Read MoreDivorce and Children: The Not So Secret Way to Get Through Divorce Without Breaking up the Family
Divorce is complicated. Divorce and children? That’s when uncomplicating things really matters. A “normal” family dynamic looks different to all of us. But those relationships and routines—the warmth, safety, energy, and feeling of support a family provides—is something none of us wants to lose. The benefits of a close-knit family seem obvious when you look…
Read MoreHow to Survive a Nasty Divorce & Take Care of You, Too!
Every divorce is heartbreaking because it abruptly ends the dream of living happily ever after together. But a nasty divorce is doubly painful because of the ongoing onslaught of your Ex’s aggressive behavior. Aggressive behavior during (and after) a bad divorce can take many forms. Purposeful cruelty People who resort to purposeful cruelty do things…
Read MoreWhat You Must Know About Deciding to Divorce
On some level, just landing on this page, reading this blog means a part of you is seriously contemplating divorce. Yet, it’s just a part of you. Choosing between deciding to divorce or working on your marriage is extremely confusing. There are so many unknowns and what-if scenarios racing through your mind that it’s difficult…
Read MoreMy Life After Divorce: The Unexpected Gifts
For me, life after divorce is when time shifted. In fact, I measure things now in terms of “A.D.” (after divorce) as opposed to “W.H.” ( — while I was “with him”). And A.D.? It’s my current epoch, and let me reassure you, A.D. is good. But, you might be in another place right now, and…
Read MoreWho Pays for a Divorce? The Question Every Couple Asks After Deciding to End Their Marriage
I’ve helped countless couples get married and divorced over the past two decades. People enter marriages for any number of reasons and leave them the same way. Some of the people I meet are simply thinking about getting a divorce. Others are already separated, looking to dot the I’s and cross the T’s. And when…
Read MoreCoparenting Tips: 4 Ground Rules All Divorced Parents Should Live by (For Everybody’s Sake)
So that’s it. Game over. You’re all talked out, and the writing on the wall is clear. Something has to change, and you and your partner have decided divorce is the best answer. If you share children with your Ex, then before you can even think about how you’ll fumble through the world of dating…
Read MoreSelf Care after Divorce: Loving Our Bodies, Ourselves
Taking care of ourselves can be challenging on our best days. Work, children, aging parents, pets, email, the car, smartphones—all of them competing in a dizzying buzz for our attention. Yet, self care after divorce is crucial. There’s no one around to casually remind you it’s time for another teeth cleaning or that you seem…
Read MoreHow to Hire A Divorce Lawyer (The Right One for You)
Whether you’re contemplating getting a divorce or ready to act, your first step is NOT to make any immediate decisions but to get educated on what the divorce process looks like and how to hire a divorce lawyer. You have choices, and you need to understand what they are. Divorce laws can change quite a…
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