Suing the Other Woman
A recent lawsuit in North Carolina has called attention to the presence of “the other woman” as a cause of divorce. There are only six states left where a woman (or man) can file this kind of lawsuit—the other five being Mississippi, South Dakota, Hawaii, New Mexico and Utah. The legal suit, termed “alienation of…
Read More5 Must Do’s When Your Child Refuses to Visit Their Father
One of the more complex issues in coparenting after divorce is balancing your needs with your child’s needs. This is especially challenging when your child refuses to visit a parent based on the agreements made with your coparent, such as visitation time. Some children do not want to spend time with their father* or other…
Read MoreWhat Does a Gray Divorce Mean for You?
On the subject of gray divorce, it seems that there’s an elephant in the room. The divorce rate is slowing for millennials and younger age groups largely because people are waiting longer to marry or not marrying at all. Fewer marriages mean fewer divorces, and the fact that both men and women now have jobs…
Read MoreThe 5 Sides to Divorce Guilt
The process of divorce is harrowing enough. It’s physically, emotionally, and financially draining. It’s life-altering for everyone involved. And it comes with a guaranteed grief cycle in its wake. So the idea of adding divorce guilt to the heap of undesirable feelings seems almost, well, unfair. Guilt is the usual accompaniment to having done something…
Read MoreWomen and Divorce in Transformational Times
Those sounds you hear are the shattering of a glass ceiling and the fetters of an old patriarchal paradigm breaking wide open as something gorgeous emerges. That Something Is Us. The recent election of Kamala Harris as the first woman of color to serve as U.S. Vice President has ushered in a new frontier of…
Read MoreLife After Divorce: Finding My Footing in Year One
I recently handed in my resignation letter for a job I’d had for only three months. It was a good company but the type of work, the hours, and the pay didn’t suit me. My closest friends expressed tentative support. I knew they were wondering: “Are you sure you know what you are doing? It’s…
Read MoreHow to Reconcile Unconditional Love and Divorce
All of us have the capacity for unconditional love. However, while this lofty concept is an ideal we can nurture in ourselves, it is not at all appropriate to hold ourselves to it as a gold standard if it is to the exclusion of our own well-being. For this reason, the value of unconditional love…
Read More3 Major Relationship Mistakes Women Make After Divorce
When it comes to dating in your new, independent life, you’ll want to steer clear of these relationship mistakes divorced women make time and time again. If you have divorced or gone through the breakup of a long-term relationship, then you know your fears about moving forward. You worry you’ll attract the same kind of…
Read MoreWhat is a Custody Battle and How Do You Avoid One?
A custody battle occurs when divorcing or divorced parents disagree about who should retain legal or physical custody of their children. Unfortunately, this is a common cause of litigation in family court, second only to litigation over support payments. Custody battles are costly, both emotionally and financially, and can wreak havoc in the lives of…
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