How Do I Make a Change in My Life?
If you’ve ever wanted to pivot, or make a change in your life, you know where it must begin. It begins with you. This is what probably holds you up in the first place. But if you think about it not meaning absolute perfection, but rather, your taking little steps to reach your goal or your version of “perfection,” it’s a good start. It’s okay to celebrate your imperfect perfection, too. For it means recognizing your perceived faults and flaws while coming to understand who you are. Once you start doing that, understanding who you really are, you can embrace that space wherever you are on your journey.
How do you get to that place of making a change in your life?
It’s never easy or simple – figuring out who you are can be challenging, emotional, and most of all … painful. We never want to dig deeper for the true reflection, because we fear we may not like who that person is. At first. But, once you start seeing things for what they truly are, who you really are underneath it all, you can begin healing from within.
What is the journey?
The journey is whatever you need it to be, as long as you’re true to you. Take some time to reflect on the things that have made you happiest in your life. Not superficial happiness, but those times that really made you feel warm inside, the ones you can never forget. Why were you so happy? What were the triggers that helped you feel this way? The journey is finding your way back to those times, exploring what was happening when you were free and confident. When you felt competent and yes, truly alive. Then it’s about finding new circumstances to relive those sensations when your mind and body and spirit were in alignment. You are not going backwards. You are going forward seeking what you know on a very primal, inspiring level.
Next, think about the things you love to do. We mean things that really make you hum! Those things that you would do for free just because they fulfill you. Make a list and then start finding out where you can go to do those things. You like to sing? Join a choir, a band, a group. Or take singing lessons. Paint? Go to paint school or cover a table in your house with a cloth and make it your craft table for a month. You may be swamped in your “day” job, but there’s always time to do the things you really want to – IF you really want to.
The best plans are those that come when you least expect them. Now is the time to look at those plans and view them as an opportunity to do something different. Change can be scary, but it helps you grow. Realizing you have a chance to make a difference in your life should be something to get excited about. All you have to do is take the plunge.
Taking the plunge
Have you ever landed in a foreign country? How about taking an ice-cold shower? It really shocks you at first, but the longer you stay there, your body adjusts. And then afterward, your mind and body are rejuvenated. It’s vibing, it’s alive! That’s just like new things in life. Once you start doing something different, it may be uncomfortable at first, but you learn to adapt. And … sometimes you discover something fascinating about yourself.
The key is preparing yourself. You’re making a plan, but it’s not about doing something for someone else – this plan is all about you. Start small and work your way into bigger things. Maybe a haircut or new pair of shoes. You may want to take a class to pursue another career. Maybe it means finding the right kind of support. Who are the friends who know the Best You? Maybe it’s about finding the right coach. The person who can hold you accountable to doing what you say you want to do. Every little thing you do counts toward your becoming.
Making a change to your life, or changes to your living actually helps you become flexible, more adaptable at seeing things in a different light. You may begin to challenge the priorities you used to have, reshaping your mindset. You’ll start to see your strengths and weaknesses differently, breaking up the monotony in your life. It could be something as small as taking a trip to another state by yourself, or sitting in a restaurant alone and ordering a lovely dinner to be shared with … yourself. Or, you may have never taken a walk around the block in the other direction, or truly explored your city. All these things work together to provide variety, shift your brain and get you prepared for bigger changes that may come.
If you see it, receive it. Then, take the steps to believe it. Change is inevitable when seeking your truth but there’s no bigger champion of your future than you. Start making a change that speaks to you and watch what else falls into place.
If you are having a hard time taking the steps you know you need to take to change your life, consider a free consultation with SAS for Women. We’ve been there and we’ve designed our work to support you.