Getting Through a Divorce: How to Keep Your Head Straight

Getting through a divorce

Getting through a divorce will be one of the most difficult experiences of your life. And your difficulties will start at the very beginning. If you were the one who decided that divorce was the best way to change the difficulties in your marriage, you know the agony you experienced in coming to your decision.…

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Coparenting with a Narcissist

Coparenting with a narcissist

A person with narcissistic personality disorder has a veneer of generosity and kindness, but after marrying him*, when you really get to know each other, you discover that’s not who he is at all. A narcissist controls and manipulates his spouse. But at first, this behavior seems so at odds with the person you thought…

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Divorce Porn: 4 Types That Are Almost Never a Good Thing

Divorce porn is living vicariously through another's divorce.

Ever wonder why we pay so much attention to how Angie and Brad split up? Or if Beyonce and Jay Z are really going to stick it out? Or, will she do it this time? The world is watching …Will Melania take 45er’s hand as they board Air Force One? Turns out, we are secretly fascinated, drawn, repelled…

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Divorcing a Narcissist? Here’s What You Need to Know

Image about breaking up with a narcissist

Calling someone a narcissist is so commonplace these days that, in many ways, the term has become nothing more than a buzzword. People use it loosely to refer to someone who’s behaving “selfishly”. But a true pathological narcissist is a person who’s much more than selfish. According to the Mayo Clinic, narcissistic personality disorder “is…

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Happiness After Divorce: Your Sexual Reawakening

Luxe, messed up bed

During the last ten years of my marriage, I had zero interest in sex. Actually, it may have even been a negative amount of interest. Ten years is a long time. I chalked my disinterest up to two kids and getting older (I was in my late 30s, so I was clearly trying to rationalize…

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Five Steps for Choosing the Right Divorce Mediator for You

Man and woman coping with divorce

Choosing the right mediator is one of the most important decisions you’ll make during the divorce process. The right divorce mediator can save you money, shorten the painful divorce process, and empower you for life after divorce—all crucial factors in your healing process. But knowing how to find the right mediator for your specific needs…

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How to Move On and Discover Your True Self After Divorce

Finding the true you after divorce

It’s tempting, and oh, so easy to believe that the hard work of divorce is completing the legal, financial, and practical steps you must take to officially dissolve your marriage. The black and white stuff. And Lord knows there’s a myriad of those logistical, challenges. You have to decide how you will divorce, how, or…

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Divorce and Children: The Not So Secret Way to Get Through Divorce Without Breaking up the Family

How Divorce Affects Children and families

Divorce is complicated. Divorce and children? That’s when uncomplicating things really matters. A “normal” family dynamic looks different to all of us. But those relationships and routines—the warmth, safety, energy, and feeling of support a family provides—is something none of us wants to lose. The benefits of a close-knit family seem obvious when you look…

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Self Care after Divorce: Loving Our Bodies, Ourselves

Self care after divorce means listening to your inner music

Taking care of ourselves can be challenging on our best days. Work, children, aging parents, pets, email, the car, smartphones—all of them competing in a dizzying buzz for our attention. Yet, self care after divorce is crucial. There’s no one around to casually remind you it’s time for another teeth cleaning or that you seem…

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