Overthinking When to Leave Your Husband
You have a bad fight or a bad day with your husband—or more likely, you’ve had a series of them. So many thoughts race through your mind, but there’s one that stands out the most: I want a divorce. Sometimes this thought surprises us so much that we can’t be sure we really had it…
Read MoreSurviving Divorce Series: 11 Tips for Getting Through the Holidays Intact
Every month my partner Liza and I jump on the phone and host a free call for women facing change, coping, and surviving divorce. We don’t have fancy equipment nor do we rehearse…let’s just say our schtick is far from polished. But we find more and more women joining us each month as we informally…
Read MoreHow to Coparent When You Absolutely Hate Your Ex
Cutting the rope and letting go of a difficult Ex can be freeing—empowering and necessary, even. But what about when you can’t cut him* out of your life entirely? And you just hate him so much? Many women have to coparent with an Ex-husband they don’t particularly like or get along with. It sounds like…
Read MoreBreast Cancer Diagnosis: What You Need to Know
It happened. Life was moving beautifully for this 53-year-old, single woman. It was the end of June 2016, and I was preparing for a trip to Peru with my daughters. I was cleaning my hiking boots, having scheduled my shots and taken care of pesky medical exams, when …..
Read More8 Reasons I Am Grateful for My Divorce This Thanksgiving (and All Days)
We are emerging from the midterms. The country is either celebrating or cursing, and we the people in our country remain polarized. Some of us are fearful of Thanksgiving and the oncoming holidays. Who will we be seated next to? What will come up in conversation? And how strong will our bandwidth for patience be?…
Read MoreHow to Leave Your Husband and Slay Considering Divorce Syndrome™
If you’ve been suffering from an undiagnosed case of Considering Divorce Syndrome™ (CDS™) — where you keep revisiting the prospect of divorce in your head — there comes a point when you must decide whether to break the cycle of indecision or continue living in a painful limbo replaying what you know but doing nothing…
Read MoreDivorce: How to Get Over a Breakup When You Feel Abandoned
Often when you are reading about divorce and the woman’s perspective, many stories assume that the woman was unhappy and that she was the one who left the marriage. The research supports this, that women initiate divorce more often than men. And at SAS, we certainly work with women who feel and act on this.…
Read MoreDivorce and Depression: What to Look for and How to Cope
Divorce and depression are inseparable for almost everyone. The ending of—or even the thought of ending—your marriage is incredibly sad because it’s the death of your dreams of being happy together and basking in the love you thought you had found. But depression caused by divorce is not the same as what we commonly think…
Read MoreFreezing Your Eggs in the Event of Divorce
Change is a reality. Sometimes, we want to embrace it to help us grow and mature while other times change comes at the worst possible moments and in the worst possible ways. Just when we think we have a handle on how things should and will go, everything goes off-kilter. When you were growing up,…
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