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27 Cautionary Signs You’re in a Toxic Marriage
Just like the proverbial frog in the pot, it’s nearly impossible to tell when you’re in the midst of marriage conflict that’s gone from warm to boiling, or when that humorous bite that initially makes for playful conversation begins to break the skin instead. There are the occasional stings of a partner who’s had a…
Read MoreHow to Know When It’s Time to Divorce
If day in and day out you find yourself unhappy with your marriage, it’s natural to have doubts. To ask yourself, “When is enough enough?” or wonder “When is it time to divorce?” Being unhappily married is extremely uncomfortable and even hazardous to your health. You might feel off balance because you’re not fully invested…
Read MoreWhat Does a Gray Divorce Mean for You?
On the subject of gray divorce, it seems that there’s an elephant in the room. The divorce rate is slowing for millennials and younger age groups largely because people are waiting longer to marry or not marrying at all. Fewer marriages mean fewer divorces, and the fact that both men and women now have jobs…
Read MoreThe 5 Sides to Divorce Guilt
The process of divorce is harrowing enough. It’s physically, emotionally, and financially draining. It’s life-altering for everyone involved. And it comes with a guaranteed grief cycle in its wake. So the idea of adding divorce guilt to the heap of undesirable feelings seems almost, well, unfair. Guilt is the usual accompaniment to having done something…
Read MoreWomen and Divorce in Transformational Times
Those sounds you hear are the shattering of a glass ceiling and the fetters of an old patriarchal paradigm breaking wide open as something gorgeous emerges. That Something Is Us. The recent election of Kamala Harris as the first woman of color to serve as U.S. Vice President has ushered in a new frontier of…
Read MoreLife After Divorce: Finding My Footing in Year One
I recently handed in my resignation letter for a job I’d had for only three months. It was a good company but the type of work, the hours, and the pay didn’t suit me. My closest friends expressed tentative support. I knew they were wondering: “Are you sure you know what you are doing? It’s…
Read MoreHow to Reconcile Unconditional Love and Divorce
All of us have the capacity for unconditional love. However, while this lofty concept is an ideal we can nurture in ourselves, it is not at all appropriate to hold ourselves to it as a gold standard if it is to the exclusion of our own well-being. For this reason, the value of unconditional love…
Read MoreWhat is a Custody Battle and How Do You Avoid One?
A custody battle occurs when divorcing or divorced parents disagree about who should retain legal or physical custody of their children. Unfortunately, this is a common cause of litigation in family court, second only to litigation over support payments. Custody battles are costly, both emotionally and financially, and can wreak havoc in the lives of…
Read More36 Things to Do If You Are Thinking About Divorce
If you are thinking about divorce, your thoughts can fluctuate, ranging from the mere, fleeting imaginings of what life might be like if you were single, to the repetitive, torturous thought process of “Should I or shouldn’t I divorce?” While one end of the spectrum is entirely normal for many people, the other end can…
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