My Life After Divorce: The Unexpected Gifts
For me, life after divorce is when time shifted. In fact, I measure things now in terms of “A.D.” (after divorce) as opposed to “W.H.” ( — while I was “with him”). And A.D.? It’s my current epoch, and let me reassure you, A.D. is good. But, you might be in another place right now, and…
Read MoreWho Pays for a Divorce? The Question Every Couple Asks After Deciding to End Their Marriage
I’ve helped countless couples get married and divorced over the past two decades. People enter marriages for any number of reasons and leave them the same way. Some of the people I meet are simply thinking about getting a divorce. Others are already separated, looking to dot the I’s and cross the T’s. And when…
Read MoreCoparenting Tips: 4 Ground Rules All Divorced Parents Should Live by (For Everybody’s Sake)
So that’s it. Game over. You’re all talked out, and the writing on the wall is clear. Something has to change, and you and your partner have decided divorce is the best answer. If you share children with your Ex, then before you can even think about how you’ll fumble through the world of dating…
Read MoreSelf Care after Divorce: Loving Our Bodies, Ourselves
Taking care of ourselves can be challenging on our best days. Work, children, aging parents, pets, email, the car, smartphones—all of them competing in a dizzying buzz for our attention. Yet, self care after divorce is crucial. There’s no one around to casually remind you it’s time for another teeth cleaning or that you seem…
Read MoreHow to Hire A Divorce Lawyer (The Right One for You)
Whether you’re contemplating getting a divorce or ready to act, your first step is NOT to make any immediate decisions but to get educated on what the divorce process looks like and how to hire a divorce lawyer. You have choices, and you need to understand what they are. Divorce laws can change quite a…
Read MoreHow to Recover from Divorce Emotionally
You’ve heard it before, divorce can be as stressful as losing someone to death. Except death is final. The person is gone. So for those who never wanted the divorce, who continue to struggle, trying to recover from divorce emotionally, that lack of closure — still knowing your ex is around — can be more…
Read MoreContemplating Divorce Can Keep You Spinning
Recently, when I was unpacking boxes and settling into my new house, I came across something that seemed to speak to me from a different lifetime. It was my old journal, written years ago, during the months leading up to my decision to get divorced: “I feel as if I am living in the twilight…
Read MoreHow to Parent Your CoParent (Without Him Realizing!)
You know that setting an example is always important. And you can guess, I’m not just talking about the model you demonstrate to your kids. When you separate and become coparents, it is so easy to disengage and consequently, communicate less and less with your ex. It can be such a relief! Yet, communication more…
Read More100 Must Do’s for the Newly Divorced, Independent Woman
How do you rebuild your life after divorce? Ah, a very good question, my dear Ms. Watson. So good … or so daunting … that the answer and its blinding array of what ifs and unknowns make most people shrink and stop. They never find out for themselves. But that’s not you. Because here you…
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