Posts Tagged ‘divorce recovery’
How to Overcome the 6 Hardest Things About Life After Divorce
People talk a lot about what it’s like to get a divorce, but those conversations don’t often extend to what life after divorce is like. Because, unless you’ve been divorced, you don’t quite get what this next phase is really all about. During divorce, there’s a certain process: you have items to research, things to…
Read MoreWhat Does a Gray Divorce Mean for You?
On the subject of gray divorce, it seems that there’s an elephant in the room. The divorce rate is slowing for millennials and younger age groups largely because people are waiting longer to marry or not marrying at all. Fewer marriages mean fewer divorces, and the fact that both men and women now have jobs…
Read MoreThe 5 Sides to Divorce Guilt
The process of divorce is harrowing enough. It’s physically, emotionally, and financially draining. It’s life-altering for everyone involved. And it comes with a guaranteed grief cycle in its wake. So the idea of adding divorce guilt to the heap of undesirable feelings seems almost, well, unfair. Guilt is the usual accompaniment to having done something…
Read MoreLife After Divorce: Finding My Footing in Year One
I recently handed in my resignation letter for a job I’d had for only three months. It was a good company but the type of work, the hours, and the pay didn’t suit me. My closest friends expressed tentative support. I knew they were wondering: “Are you sure you know what you are doing? It’s…
Read More3 Major Relationship Mistakes Women Make After Divorce
When it comes to dating in your new, independent life, you’ll want to steer clear of these relationship mistakes divorced women make time and time again. If you have divorced or gone through the breakup of a long-term relationship, then you know your fears about moving forward. You worry you’ll attract the same kind of…
Read MoreHealing a Broken Heart and Moving On
In a poignant twist of synchronicity, I was tasked last week to write a piece on healing a broken heart – not realizing at the time that it would echo a much larger collective voice – that of American leaders describing the heart of a nation that broke — hopefully open — on January 6.
Read MoreHow to File for Divorce During Uncertainty
Divorce is an obstacle course of flaming hoops, even under the simplest and most amicable conditions. But knowing how to file for divorce when you’re still uncertain is its own form of uncertainty. There’s so much to figure out. Do you stay and work it out when you’re unhappy and unmotivated? Should you start planning…
Read MoreWhat to Do with Your Cheating Spouse
What do you do with your cheating spouse? Well… nothing illegal, ladies. Roll your eyes, sure, but let’s start with that bottom-line simplicity, even if we think it’s an “oh-I’d-never” scenario because rage is a lovely antidote to the pain. The sadness, the betrayal. Like a good alcohol buzz, rage can become addictive and erode…
Read MoreI Wanted the Divorce. Why Am I So Sad?
They say it takes 21 days to build a habit—a mere three weeks. Now imagine how hard that habit is to break if you’ve had it for three decades’ worth of marriage. Grief and withdrawal become intertwined, which is why you may catch yourself wondering “If I wanted the divorce, why am I so sad?”…
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