The 5 Sides to Divorce Guilt

Divorce Guilt

The process of divorce is harrowing enough. It’s physically, emotionally, and financially draining. It’s life-altering for everyone involved. And it comes with a guaranteed grief cycle in its wake. So the idea of adding divorce guilt to the heap of undesirable feelings seems almost, well, unfair. Guilt is the usual accompaniment to having done something…

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3 Major Relationship Mistakes Women Make After Divorce

Relationship mistakes women make after divorce

When it comes to dating in your new, independent life, you’ll want to steer clear of these relationship mistakes divorced women make time and time again. If you have divorced or gone through the breakup of a long-term relationship, then you know your fears about moving forward. You worry you’ll attract the same kind of…

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Healing a Broken Heart and Moving On

Healing a broken heart

In a poignant twist of synchronicity, I was tasked last week to write a piece on healing a broken heart – not realizing at the time that it would echo a much larger collective voice – that of American leaders describing the heart of a nation that broke — hopefully open — on January 6.

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How to File for Divorce During Uncertainty

How to file for divorce during uncertain times

Divorce is an obstacle course of flaming hoops, even under the simplest and most amicable conditions. But knowing how to file for divorce when you’re still uncertain is its own form of uncertainty. There’s so much to figure out. Do you stay and work it out when you’re unhappy and unmotivated? Should you start planning…

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What to Do with Your Cheating Spouse

What to do with a cheating spouse

What do you do with your cheating spouse? Well… nothing illegal, ladies. Roll your eyes, sure, but let’s start with that bottom-line simplicity, even if we think it’s an “oh-I’d-never” scenario because rage is a lovely antidote to the pain. The sadness, the betrayal. Like a good alcohol buzz, rage can become addictive and erode…

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I Wanted the Divorce. Why Am I So Sad?

I wanted the divorce. Why am I so sad?

They say it takes 21 days to build a habit—a mere three weeks. Now imagine how hard that habit is to break if you’ve had it for three decades’ worth of marriage. Grief and withdrawal become intertwined, which is why you may catch yourself wondering “If I wanted the divorce, why am I so sad?”…

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10 Mind-Blowingly Good Things About Life Post-Divorce

Woman with pink hat post-divorce

Divorce is nothing to look forward to. It’s certainly not a line item on your walk-down-the-aisle bucket list. So imagining your life post-divorce isn’t likely to be on your radar until you are in the throes of losing your marriage. It’s also not likely to leave you feeling hopeful about your future. But divorce, like…

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What You Should Never Say to a Divorced Woman

What you should never say to a divorced woman

From Anna, in Moscow — Living through a divorce is one thing, but writing about it is another journey altogether. I find writing stories about divorce take longer than any other topic. I start with having assumptions usually based on my own story, then I research, look around, and prove myself wrong. While I dislike…

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